Sorry fellas...your nightmare, my reality.... Do Not Enter....
It must be very difficult
To be a man in grief,
Since "men don't cry"
and "men are strong"
No tears can bring relief.
It must be very difficult
To stand up to the test,
And field the calls and visitors
So she can get some rest.
They always ask if she's all right
And what she's going through.
But seldom take his hand and ask,
"My friend, but how are you?"
He hears her crying in the night
And thinks his heart will break.
He dries her tears and comforts her,
But "stays strong" for her sake.
It must be very difficult
To start each day anew.
And try to be so very brave-
He lost his baby too.
Thank you! I've spent years trying to convince him that it wasn't his fault. He remembers it like it was yesterday. And still blames himself.
My condolences to you and your family and maybe some day you can find some solace that by sharing your story, you can save someone's little boy or girl.
The Best of Mercedes & AMG


so sorry for your loss man,i cant even begin to imagine your grief.... you are one strong man, and stay that way bro...
My condolences..I can obviously understand everyone being upset and sorry, but I think for us that actually have children can't even fathom how hard this is for the OP and his family. I can easily say that losing a child is THE absolute worst thing a parent can possibly go through; just writing this is making me want to go home and grab my little man and hug/kiss him as much as possible. I can't imagine my life without him.
Stay strong OP, keep your head up, and know that she is looking down upon you all.
Also the poem was...WOW!
I really respect the thread and RBJ and especially for starting this thread as it WILL prevent this from happening to someone else!
I am so sorry you and your family had to go through this with your little girl. I live in Arizona, where, as you can imagine, child drownings in pools is painfully common. This past year we put our boy in Infant Swim Self Rescue classes (http://www.infantswim.com/). If anything, it will allow a child to give you the precious moments you need to realize something is amiss and check on where your child is. I think we are going to plan on another child and I believe the minimum age for the ISR training is six months. Our next child will be in there as soon as reasonable.
Again, sorry for your loss.

Karl







